What is also interesting to note is that men do not forgive a physical transgression of the wife and women find it difficult to deal with the emotional transgression of the husband. This is because men can indulge in physical intimacy without any emotional bonding while women often look for an emotional bond to establish a physical relationship.

It has been long touted that men can not help taking up an available opportunity for physical relationships. They have purely physical reasons for doing so. This however is not the case. Men cheat on their spouses for a variety of mental and emotional reasons as well:

1. Novelty from Marriage Gone: Most marriages after an initial period of physical and emotional high settle down into a normal daily routine. There is a decrease in the emotional high of romance, in frequency and novelty of physical intimacy and couples get bogged down by day to day problems. This makes a man cheat in order to find an earlier emotional high and it serves as an escape route from everyday problems, even if temporarily.

2. Thrill: Men get bored with the same woman, same life and same job and so as a misdirected attempt to introduce some thrill in their life they have an affair. They shy away from the effort and responsibility of rekindling romance and emotion in their own marriage or develop some hobby as a way out and add spice to their life by going after a new woman.

3. Ego Boost: Men often use infidelity as a way of reassuring themselves of their manhood, their good looks and attraction for women other than their wives. It is also a symptom of their low self esteem and low self worth. They often get a temporary ego boost by proving their physical prowess by having an affair with another woman. This is typical of older men going after women much younger to them after years of marriage.

4. Lack of Will Power: Intimacy is a natural process and temptations abound. It is definitely something that gives pleasure even if momentarily. Men who lack will power and are weak in character give in to the temptation and cheat on their spouse. Often they are not looking for an affair but as soon as an opportunity presents itself they go for it.

5. Seeking Revenge: Men often resort to an extra marital relationship as the means of hurting and getting back at the partner who has either hurt their feelings, hurt their ego or have cheated on them. Though there is no justification for their act, their feelings are assuaged. They knowingly, intentionally get in to it and willingly let their partner become aware of it.

6. Dissatisfaction with Intimacy: Physical fulfillment is an important part of a successful marital relationship, more so for men. They often show their emotional attachment or love through physical relationship. In a relationship where the woman is unable or unwilling to satisfy a man’s physical needs leads to an emotional estrangement. This often makes men look for physical gratification outside the relationship.

7. Can Get Away With It: Most women are not ready to rock the boat, break a marriage, leave the house, trouble the children for an odd transgression by the husband. They are often wiling to forgive and reconcile with the man. A lot of men are aware of this weakness and use the opportunity with impunity.

8. Emotional Reasons: It is not only the physical needs but emotional ones as well that can lead a man to stray. A couple might be unable to reconcile their differences, think on similar planes, there might be no bonding between the two leading to an emotional detachment .A man in such a situation might seek to fill the emotional void by having an extra marital relationship with a woman he feels understands him better or is his true soul mate.

Thus, there are a number of reasons for a man to cross the moral boundaries and cheat on his partner. It is the worst form of hurt anyone can inflict on a person they claim to love or care for. Though it is difficult to get over the betrayal and insult, a lot more women than men are able to forgive their cheating partners and save their relationships.

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Are we really not naturally monogamous? An estimated 45-55% of married women and 50-60% of married men engage in extramarital sex at some time or another during their relationship. (The figure is quoted by Joan D. Atwood and Limor Schwartz, Journal of Couple & Relationship Therapy, 2002)

Evolution would select for men to have sex with many women. Any genetic tendency that way would increase the presence of that gene in the gene pool, which is what evolution selects for.

The mechanisms by which this works include (as men report) a need for "variety." Men also report becoming "bored" with a relationship with one woman, which also pushes towards seeking out other women, even though boredom could be solved more directly working with their partners.

Men can be both committed to a relationship and involved with other women at the same time. That, after all, is required for polygamy. And it is also what evolution selects for. A genetic disposition towards protecting ones offspring also works to increase the presence of those genes in the gene pool.

As I write this, it is elk mating season here in Colorado. The male elk butt heads to prove who is the dominant male, and the dominant male gets the harem. Powerful men are also disposed to have multiple sex partners. It is possible that the genetic reasons are quite similar in many mammals.

Not only do successful men feel they have it coming to have more women interested in them, quite a few women seem to agree. I'm reminded of a woman I was talking to at a party back in the days of President Clinton. She freely stated she would be happy to have an affair with the leader of the free world. I asked her, "How about a tenured Professor?" "Nowhere near," she responded.

What should you do if your husband is unfaithful? It depends much on his infidelity's meaning. Don't rush to take it personally. It may be more about him being a man than it is about you or your relationship.

What commitment do you want? A man is capable of being committed to a marriage even if he strays occasionally.

If you expect perfection against strong evolutionary pressure to the contrary, you are likely to be disappointed. You can't even get him to clean up after himself, and there is no particular natural selection for messiness.

So the meaning of infidelity is not completely clear. That means a lot more discussion and soul searching is called for. Is he in fact committed? Is he unhappy with you? Are there difficulties in your relationship?

These discussions are difficult for men. They do not have much expertise in thinking about relationships or discussing feelings.

When a man commits, he commits to a particular, attractive woman who admires and values him. After marriage, women change. They typically gain weight. They try to change their husbands by pointing out their flaws. The reasons for the initial commitment erode. A new woman who is admiring and attractive is, well, attractive.

It helps to understand that men's attraction to women is both personal and super-personal. They are attracted to women who understand and appreciate them, and they respond to The Feminine. To the extent you understand him and accept him and appreciate him and you "wear" the feminine for him, you will retain his commitment,

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MANILA, Philippines - The Philippine Basketball Association franchise of Barako Bull is up for sale.

MANILA, Philippines - Japeth Aguilar has recovered from his left knee injury and will play with the Smart Gilas Pilipinas when the national basketball team faces the Alaska Aces on Friday in the PBA Commissioner's Cup at the Araneta Coliseum.The troublesome knee has kept the 6-foot-9 Aguilar from seeing action in the Asian Games in Guangzhou China last year and the Dubai Invitational last January.His arrival is expected to boost the Gilas' campaign in the pro-league, which started on high note by beating Philippine Cup champion Talk 'N Text, 103-98, last Saturday in Antipolo City.Smart-Gilas will battle an Alaska side that improved its record to 2-0 following a 95-94 victory over Barangay Ginebra late Sunday.Alaska playmaker LA Tenorio delivered the key basket when he buried a three-pointer with 3.6 seconds left in the game, and then stole the ball from Kings' import Nate Brumfield to seal the outcome.Smart-Gilas, however, will miss forward Mac Baracael, who will be sidelined for at least six weeks after he injured his left middle finger, team manager Frankie Lim said yesterday.The oblique fracture in his middle finger doesn't need a surgery, but Lim said.

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OKLAHOMA CITY, Oklahoma (AFP) - - Pau Gasol scored 18 points and 11 rebounds and Andrew Bynum had 16 points and 10 rebounds as Los Angeles edged Oklahoma City 90-87 in a matchup of first-place teams on Sunday.

MANILA, Philippines - Dennis Orcollo became the third Filipino in eight years to rule the World 8-Ball Championship, clobbering the Netherlands’ Neils Feijen, 10-3, for the 2011 crown at the Fujairah Exhibition Center in Fujairah, United Arab Emirates Saturday night.

MANILA, Philippines - The Alaska Aces and the Rain or Shine Elasto Painters notched their second wins in today's PBA Commissioner's Cup twinbill held at the Cuneta Astrodome in Pasay City. The Elasto Painters got a big game from import Hassan Adams who managed 23 points to lead his team to a 101-92 victory.

MANILA, Philippines - If there are still doubts whether his name should be mentioned in the same breath as Filipino pool legends Efren ''Bata'' Reyes and Francisco ''Django'' Bustamante, Dennis Orcollo lifted it all with a spectacular victory Saturday.

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DETROIT, Michigan (AFP) - The Detroit Pistons shrugged off an embarrassing start to their weekend with a welcome victory, with Rodney Stuckey delivering 28 points in a 120-116 NBA triumph over Utah.Saturday's win came a day after the Pistons used just six players in a lopsided defeat at Philadelphia, an embarrassing outing that came after several Detroit players missed part of a team shoot-around and sparked rumors of discord in the team.Stuckey and Austin Daye, who arrived late to the shootaround and didn't play on Friday, were back on court against Utah.

MANILA, Philippines (PNA) - The popular Philippine Azkals spiced up the country's weeklong commemoration of the 1986 EDSA People Power Revolution as they joined the Fun Run for a cause on Sunday morning.The Azkals were among the estimated yellow-clad 2,000 runners who took part in the 10-kilometer fun run entitled ''The EDSA Run.

NEW YORK (Reuters) - The NFL Players Association plans to decertify before the current labor agreement expires next week in a bid to block a potential lockout, according to a report on the league's website on Saturday.Absent any breakthrough in labor negotiations with the league, which are scheduled to resume on Tuesday, the players' union would decertify before the current collective bargaining agreement expires on March 4, the report said (www.nfl.com).Such a move could prevent owners from locking out players when the current deal expires because individual players would be able to seek a court injunction preventing such action.If the union waited until after the expiration of the current labor agreement, they would have to wait six months to decertify, the report said.Key issues in the negotiations include the division of revenues, a possible move to an 18-game regular season, a rookie wage scale and pensions for former players.After seven days of lengthy talks concluded on Thursday, the federal mediator overseeing negotiations asked team owners and the players to assess their positions and reconvene on Tuesday.He also said that while some progress had been made, ''very strong differences'' remained on the core issues.

WASHINGTON, Feb 26, 2011 (AFP) - Results and standings after Friday's National Basketball Association games:

MIAMI (AFP) - The Miami Heat got the upper hand over NBA Eastern Conference rivals Boston as Dwyane Wade delivered 41 points to help turn back the determined Washington Wizards 121-113.Wade's big night helped the Heat come out on top in a game that had appeared to be the easiest in Miami's tough 13-game stretch against a string of playoff contenders.LeBron James added 25 points with nine rebounds and seven assists as Miami pulled away in the fourth quarter.With the victory the Heat improved to 43-16, taking a half-game lead over the idle Celtics in the Eastern Conference.Chris Bosh scored 15 points and Mario Chalmers finished with 14 for Miami, who have won seven in a row at home.Nick Young scored 38 points for the Wizards, who had 24 points and 12 assists from John Wall and 18 points and 17 rebounds from JaVale McGee.Washington pulled within two points late in the third quarter, but eventually fell to 1-28 in away games this season.Young notched his second-highest scoring game of the season, behind his 43-point effort against Sacramento last month.He had scored 27 points when he twisted his left ankle early in the third period and after receiving treatment he seemed less effective than he had been earlier in the game.Miami's 20-8 scoring run, capped by Wade reaching the 40-point mark with 5:24 remaining, gave the Heat a solid 108-94 cushion."I got a couple to fall for me, and as a scorer, once you see the ball go through the basket, now you're going," Wade said.

MANILA, Philippines - Ana "The Hurricane" Julaton put on a display of boxing skills to dominate Franchesca Alcanter and retain her World Boxing Organization (WBO) super-bantamweight title Saturday at the Craneway Pavilion Point Richmond in California, USA.The 30-year-old Filipino-American champion kept the challenger at bay with her powerful lead left jab and solid combinations to control the 10-round title bout and successfully defend her 122-lbs belt she wrested from Maria Elena Villalobos last July.Julaton won by scores of 98-92, 97-93, and 96-94.She improved to 8-2-1 overall."I just kept her away with those left jabs of mine," said Julaton after the fight.

MANILA, Philippines - The fate of conditioning coach Alex Ariza is in the hands of Manny Pacquiao and trainer Freddie Roach, the Filipino fighter's adviser told the Bulletin Saturday."That's between Manny and Freddie and Alex," said Canadian Mike Koncz from the US.Roach had told a pair of Manila-based scribes last week in Los Angeles that Pacquiao can whip himself up into shape even without Ariza in training camp.Roach is preparing to head to Manila to kick off the eight-week buildup for Pacquiao's May 7 bout with Shane Mosley.Koncz said Roach also told him of the same thing but he politely declined to comment if Ariza will be brought in next month or be asked to stay in Los Angeles.Pacquiao will travel to Baguio in the second week of March for training camp.Ariza came into the scene in mid-2008 and is widely credited for Pacquiao's landmark wins over Oscar De La Hoya, Ricky Hatton and Miguel Cotto.Roach, who has been calling the shots in Pacquiao's corner since 2001, said he will not even look for a replacement for Ariza."I know how to get him in shape and Manny knows how to get in shape," said Roach.Pacquiao could not be reached to comment as he is in Hong Kong with his family.

ORLANDO, Florida (Reuters) - Dwight Howard was dominant in leading the Orlando Magic to an easy 111-88 win over an undermanned Oklahoma City Thunder on Friday."There's got to be a consistency to what we do," Orlando coach Stan Van Gundy told reporters.

LOS ANGELES (AP) - Kobe Bryant scored 18 of his 24 points in the third quarter, Pau Gasol added 22 points, and the Los Angeles Lakers won their third game in four days out of the All-Star break, beating the weary Los Angeles Clippers 108-95 Friday night.Andrew Bynum had 16 points and 11 rebounds in another breezy win for the Lakers, who had lost three straight before co-hosting the All-Star weekend with their cross-hallway rivals.Bryant went to the locker room two minutes before halftime after hurting his right elbow.

SAN ANTONIO (AP) - Deron Williams broke a huddle with "Go Jazz!"He's kept a sense of humor since his stunning trade to New Jersey.

CLEVELAND (AP) - Carmelo Anthony left with a sore elbow and a bruised ego.His second game with the New York Knicks was embarrassing.Playing the final quarter with numbness in his right elbow, Anthony missed a key late free throw and fouled out of his first road game with the Knicks, who took Cleveland too lightly and were beaten 115-109 on Friday night by the fired-up Cavaliers.Anthony, acquired earlier this week from Denver in a blockbuster trade, finished with 27 points but missed a foul shot with 25 seconds left that would have brought New York within two.

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not much... Paul spoke about marriage to one wife but even those scriptures Paul lets even one know that he didn't get the revelation from god and that he was using his own judgment to what we thought was the right thing to do. Which he thought relationships should be greatly limited so people can focus on God since he thought he was in the last generation before the end times.

Jesus spoke of infidelity that if you even look at another woman with the desire to have her that is wrong but he was speaking through the perspective of a man looking at another man's wife with desire and lust.

Many Christians misuse bible context and tend to blend different scriptures from different time eras that were specific to that time and culture.

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Are we really not naturally monogamous? An estimated 45-55% of married women and 50-60% of married men engage in extramarital sex at some time or another during their relationship. (The figure is quoted by Joan D. Atwood and Limor Schwartz, Journal of Couple & Relationship Therapy, 2002)

Evolution would select for men to have sex with many women. Any genetic tendency that way would increase the presence of that gene in the gene pool, which is what evolution selects for.

The mechanisms by which this works include (as men report) a need for "variety." Men also report becoming "bored" with a relationship with one woman, which also pushes towards seeking out other women, even though boredom could be solved more directly working with their partners.

Men can be both committed to a relationship and involved with other women at the same time. That, after all, is required for polygamy. And it is also what evolution selects for. A genetic disposition towards protecting ones offspring also works to increase the presence of those genes in the gene pool.

As I write this, it is elk mating season here in Colorado. The male elk butt heads to prove who is the dominant male, and the dominant male gets the harem. Powerful men are also disposed to have multiple sex partners. It is possible that the genetic reasons are quite similar in many mammals.

Not only do successful men feel they have it coming to have more women interested in them, quite a few women seem to agree. I'm reminded of a woman I was talking to at a party back in the days of President Clinton. She freely stated she would be happy to have an affair with the leader of the free world. I asked her, "How about a tenured Professor?" "Nowhere near," she responded.

What should you do if your husband is unfaithful? It depends much on his infidelity's meaning. Don't rush to take it personally. It may be more about him being a man than it is about you or your relationship.

What commitment do you want? A man is capable of being committed to a marriage even if he strays occasionally.

If you expect perfection against strong evolutionary pressure to the contrary, you are likely to be disappointed. You can't even get him to clean up after himself, and there is no particular natural selection for messiness.

So the meaning of infidelity is not completely clear. That means a lot more discussion and soul searching is called for. Is he in fact committed? Is he unhappy with you? Are there difficulties in your relationship?

These discussions are difficult for men. They do not have much expertise in thinking about relationships or discussing feelings.

When a man commits, he commits to a particular, attractive woman who admires and values him. After marriage, women change. They typically gain weight. They try to change their husbands by pointing out their flaws. The reasons for the initial commitment erode. A new woman who is admiring and attractive is, well, attractive.

It helps to understand that men's attraction to women is both personal and super-personal. They are attracted to women who understand and appreciate them, and they respond to The Feminine. To the extent you understand him and accept him and appreciate him and you "wear" the feminine for him, you will retain his commitment,

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The other common one is the contacts test, where you investigate on all the contacts made by them. This could be through phone, emails and do not forget the personal visits. Every time he/she leaves home without you, you should be behind them.

Watch their behavior towards you, their work and friends. This can tell you a lot. If something feels strange or not like them, investigate further carefully without letting them know.

You could always try to catch them as well. Drop by their workplace or go home early. You may find a nasty little surprise, but one that answers a lot of questions.

Try to listen when they are on the phone or talking to a friend. Follow them around, but you have to do it smartly. Try and get answers to all the questions you have over a few months. You cannot rush, you will spoil the whole show.

Another smart way of judging them is to ask what they feel about cheaters. This will be like a test for them, so when they are answering observe and listen with your heart.

The test also involves background information. So find out where they were and what they were doing before you got marriage. Do they have a history of cheating?

You could also pretend to go out of town for a while, yet secretly stay behind. This could help you judge their actions more carefully, seeing what they actually do when you are not around.

Watching their behavior closely will give you the best indication of what your spouse is actually up to. If they act different when you are alone with them compared to with their friends, something may be up. The way they act will be the first indication that something is wrong.

If none of this works, you can ask them to take a polygraph test. Realize, however, that consent is needed first. On top of this, if you resort to this measure, the trust is already broken. You have to be prepared for any results you may get.

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